The ultimate blame goes to Adam.  Paul said so in Romans.  This is true because it was the man who was given the commandment even prior to the building of Eve.  Though her sins are unseen sins because the law was given to Adam, she did not have her eyes opened until after the man ate.  But her and all of her feminine posterity suffer from a curse.  The first law was given to Adam but Paul clearly expresses in 1 Timothy that "Adam was formed first, then Eve.  And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived fell into transgression."  Why does she now suffer and how?

At first sight of her, the man immediately recognized that she was made according to his presence, as the Hebrew describes her.  She was not like any of the other named ones who were there for other reasons.  He even spoke poetry to her and praised her bones and flesh.  A man's first look makes a sure mark on his mind. 

But there was something lurking beneath this beauty that was there before the transgression.  Genesis says of her that "she saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise."  She then took of the fruit and ate it, giving it to the man.

It was her who first desired freedom and power and she did indeed trick the man.  Women would like to say that the man ate and the Serpent tricked and will argue that it only says that she tricked because the sinful man said that she did.  She must remember that it was her who also said that Serpent tricked her and if his allegation was a lie so was hers, making her a liar about the serpent and leaves her as the sole person who had orchestrated a deception.

There was at first a supreme freedom between the two as it says of them that they were naked and not ashamed.  But it says of the serpent that he was crafty, being called Satan in Revelation.  He tricked her with words that were not spoken by God to the man but it says very clearly of her that she thought that the tree was desirable to make one wise.  Elsewhere in the law it uses this same word in the Hebrew to speak of idolatry (see esp. Exodus 20:17).

This is why she was cursed along with the man but her curses were internal, where her desire lies.  Though that cursed desire for her husband is a different kind of desire than her first it certainly is not desirable to her as she now deeply desires this one that told on her and revealed her secret. 

Furthermore, when she discovers that her husband knows how to play with her desire she feels trapped as her pain in childbearing will manifest itself in many ways, including being dependent on the one who no longer speaks sweetly in her ear at night.  His sounds are more like an animal.

Because a curse was given to her does not mean that her other secret, prideful desires have gone.  Those women who live in a destitute state desire better things even as the those with riches desire more things.  The man is all too eager to be fooled by this trick as he is cursed in his work so that its prideful importance overrules the necessity for perpetual courtship.  But as he is recognized for his outward sins, the woman is able to hide behind her tears as her sins of passionate, prideful greed go unnoticed.

A man can run and hide but a woman is indeed trapped by her love for those he made her to have.  He knows how to play on this desire of her love and she knows how to trick him with her unseen skills.  Until these truths are made known and dealt with, a defeated man who used his ruling over too harshly because of her slight of hand will depart, if not only emotionally.  This only deepens her despair to have her desires met.

But her trickery has not gone unnoticed by God as evidenced by the fact that He judged her.  And even a redeemed woman is to be silent in the church regarding matters of the Word of God, which is precisely the context of this directive in 1 Corinthians 14.  She is allowed to teach other women and children but there is no authority to be exercised over a man in the church, or in the home.  Work should be different for her but unfortunately it is not because then she is infringing upon his weakness that he desires to cover up with raised feathers and loud voices.

These are the traps of original sin.  Those who remain unmarried are affected differently but they are affected indeed.  These sins can only be overcome through compliance, which is not desirable for either the man or the woman because of sinful pride; desertion, which has problems of its own; or by rightly dealing with them at the cross of our Lord.  Until that day, laws of God, seen and unseen, will hold both the man and the woman captive until the day of their death, living out their days simply out of duty rather than joy.